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什么是你真实的自我？What Is Your True Self?
什么是你真实的自我？What Is Your True Self?in 陈凯论坛 Kai Chen Forum 不自由，毋宁死! Give Me Liberty or Give Me Death! Thu Oct 13, 2011 6:03 pm
by fountainheadkc • 1.369 Posts
What Is Your True Self?
A person's true “self” can only be sought and discovered through the person's willingness, wisdom and courage to face the truth, regardless of the consequences. In other words, he must pay a price for this self-discovery. But only through this self-discovery, true freedom and happiness can be achieved. --- Kai Chen
一个人真实的自我只当他具有面对真实的意愿，智慧与勇气才能得到，不论这个真实会把他带向何方。 也就是说，他要付出代价才能发现自我。 但只有当他发现这个真实自我的时候，真正的自由与幸福才成为可能。 --- 陈凯
What is your true "self"? Is it your skin color? Is it your cultural upbringing? Is it your ethnicity? Is it your religious indoctrination? Is it what you eat? Is it what you read? Is it decided by your being rich or poor? Is it decided by your gender? Is it decided by your age? Is it decided by your family and friends?
To dwell on these questions, one has to come up with "no" to each, for the fact that even if we have gone through exactly the same experience in life, no one will come to the same conclusion about life with others, or everyone will draw different conclusion on their own. For example, harsh conditions will crush some but strengthen others. Being rich does not mean being weak and arrogant and vile. Being oppressed does not mean one is fair-minded. Being abused does not mean one is righteous.
We all spend life time to search and fulfill this mysterious "self", for we somehow know that without having grasped and understood this "self" we can never be free and happy. But what is it anyway?
Some people have never believed the notion of "being free". They assume that everyone is the product of outside influences and upbringings. They believe everything you have is from someone else. There simply is no such thing as "original you". So by this notion, no one is truly himself and therefore no one is truly responsible for anything. I have found this notion is prevalent among the determinists of the world --- the Nazis, the communists, the socialists, the leftists. They conclude, as Lenin once concluded, that no one is and should be free unless everyone in the world is free. This notion that individual freedom is impossible, until a couple of million years from now when the perfect society is established is as insane as it is well received among humans today. Logically, silent desperation is the only state of being these lofty and "superior" saviors of the world have prescribed for mankind. I have experienced such people both in China and in America. Their whole existence is depended on others' perception of them, and their entire repertoire of tools to ensure that they feel they exist is to please or demean others and majority. A lack of faith in truth and reality from their part is certainly to blame. They have not found and will never be able to find peace in themselves, exactly because of this "others-oriented" state of being.
I have come to believe, through my own life experience, that a person is born free. Yet through his life time he has to encounter and overcome tremendous forces from outside to remain free. He has to have will, ability and courage to believe and pursue this true existence of himself, not the false "self" in others' eyes or created by others' pressures.
-- What one has been through Does Not define who he is and his true "self". What defines one's true "self" is what he absorbs and acquires through what he has been through. --
I have met many who decide what to vote based sheerly on their skin color; I have met many who came to America but can only survive in their own cultural circle. I have met many who are determined by their life experience, not making sense of it to make themselves a free being from it. I have met many that are held hostage by their own hatred and prejudices. I have met many who let their wounds scar their entire life. I have met many who are slaves of their own flesh and blood from birth. I have met many who let their religious fervor devour their own individuality, reason and humanity. I have met many who simply give up on life by passing time or turning their head back to look for their past glory for a little comfort. I have met many....
Yet, since I came to America, I have also met many who exhibit tremendous courage to overcome life's tragedies to triumph. I have also met many who overcome impossible odds, defying the will of the majority and their own cultural circle, to have achieved freedom and happiness. I have also met many who through their every day life radiate life and joy upon others from the very inside of them, brightening this marvelous world. I have seen miracles achieved here in America by athletes, by entrepreneurs, by ordinary people. I have seen what human society should be and what human being should be. Every moment I have experienced greatness and endless energy of life here in America. I have concluded that here in America, humans are believed to be free. They treat each other as free beings. They are not the products, the creatures, the slaves of their environment. They are the masters of it. This is all because they are free to discover the meaning of their true existence, their true 'self", to achieve their true happiness. This phenomenon is not an exception here in America, it is a norm.
Then are all the people in America happy? Of course not. Then maybe one should examine the source of their unhappiness. Are they still trapped by their own skin color? By their own ancestors? By their own cultural tradition? By their lack of willingness, wisdom and courage to discover and fulfill their own lives' meaning? I am constantly amazed by the answers people give me. Some constantly complain; some constantly make excuses for their own indecisions and inactions; others who are successful will never brag or complain, they just go out there and do it.
So what is your true "self"? I will have to say that it is that something inside you that makes you absorb something while abandon other things from your life experiences. It is that something inside of you that makes you make all the decisions every day, be it big or little. It is that something that stops you from doing certain things while motivate you doing other things tirelessly, It is that something that makes you get up every day, be it reluctantly or enthusiastically. It is that something that makes you love something while despise other things. It is that something that calls out your passion or dulls down your fire. It is that something that gives meaning in your life.
Best. Kai Chen 陈凯